Buying and Selling are Emotional Sports

Buying & Selling Are Emotional Sports

Think about the last time you made a significant purchase.

How did you FEEL about your decision? Were your positive feelings greater or lesser than your negative feelings? What specifically sold you on moving forward at the moment you made the decision to purchase?

According to Statista, there were about 130 million people worldwide engaged in direct sales as their chosen profession.  Add to this all the people roles and professions which lean heavily upon selling – indirect sales, marketing, advertising, customer care, business development – and we’re easily talking a third to half a billion people.

If you’ve ever had to persuade other people, such as peers, children, parents, co-workers, employees, or bosses, to act, you are selling. Thus, it may be safe to say that almost every person on the planet is engaged in selling.

That’s why Zig Ziglar’s quote is so important for you. To win anyone to your way of thinking, you must focus on their emotions, not just their minds.

Emotions are Generated by What We Say, How We Say It, and the Body Language We Use

Words. Have you ever noticed how some words make you feel happy and excited, while other words generate fear or depress you? Here are a few examples:

• Words that make us feel positive: sunny, cheerful, inspiring, engaging, heartwarming, thrilling, joyful, belonging, happy, love, trust, and pleasing. These words generate positive emotions (and describe them, too).
• Words that make us feel negative: fear, doubt, consequence, penalty, cost, anxious, hurt, damaged, worry, hate, destroyed, broken, harmful, depressing, and lawsuit. These words generate negative emotions as well as describe them.

Delivery. Likewise, the way someone delivers a message generates emotions. If their message is upbeat, warm, caring, and interesting, we’ll be favorably moved. On the other hand, if their delivery is angry, depressing, critical, neutral or cold, we’ll receive it unfavorably.

Body Language. Look at the eight faces at the top of this article and imagine each face saying the words, “I have something to tell you…”  The message received depends on what her body language (in this case, her expression) is telling you.

Key Sales Takeaway: when you communicate, people always remember how they felt more than what they heard.

A Simple Lesson in Emotional Persuasion from Julia Diaz

Which of these Julia Diaz’s would you buy from? Two days ago, Julia took time to fully understand you, your circumstances, and what you wanted and needed. Today she’s meeting with you via Zoom, and this is what she said and did:

Almost everyone gravitates towards Julie Diaz A because her approach generates more positive feelings. Her enthusiasm and conviction are infectious, and you cannot help but smile back at her. It is not that Julie Diaz B said or did anything to offend you… but she came across as flat and not convinced about what solutions her team came up with, so she doesn’t inspire trust or any warm feelings.

In the absence of intentionally generating positive emptions, buyers and prospects will interpret the neutral message as slightly negative and uninspiring. That’s why it is critical to create positive emptions in all aspects of the message – the right words, delivered in an emotionally positive way, with body language that matches the delivery.

Key Sales Takeaway: In the absence of intentionally creating positive emotions, your message will have a slight negative tone.

This article is based on principles taught in both of Boyer Management Group’s acclaimed Business-to-Business and Business-to-Consumer sales development programs found at B2B and B2C Sales Essentials™